Ethical Practice and Motivational Interviewing in Family Violence Work

Ethical Practice and Motivational Interviewing in Family Violence Work

Let’s talk about something vital in our work with men who use domestic, family, and sexualised violence—Motivational Interviewing (MI). This powerful approach helps people find their own reasons for change. But here’s the catch: MI isn’t magic. It’s deeply rooted in ethics, and without that ethical foundation, it risks becoming just another tool for compliance rather than genuine transformation.

At the core of MI is respect for autonomy. Why is this so crucial? Because the men we support often already feel cornered by court orders, mandated programs, or system interventions. Our role isn’t to persuade or pressure; it’s to create a space where they can listen to themselves and deeply consider the impacts of their actions. When MI is used effectively, it draws out genuine, internal motivations for change rather than imposing them from the outside.

But here’s where we need to be really careful. If we start using MI merely to “secure buy-in” or tick compliance boxes, we risk slipping into manipulation—and that’s exactly what ethical MI practice stands against. Our work is about walking alongside, offering reflections (these can be challenging), gently exploring how abusive practice conflicts with the man’s values, and genuinely supporting them to see the broader ripple effects of their behaviours on their partners, children, and whānau.

This becomes even more crucial in contexts such as corrections, child protection, or mandated programmes, where power dynamics are especially pronounced. Ethical MI in these settings means being transparent, clear, and culturally humble. It means establishing boundaries openly, ensuring informed consent, and creating a relational space that maintains dignity and mana.

Yes, ambivalence and minimisation are familiar territories in this mahi/work. MI helps us navigate these tricky waters without judgment or confrontation, guiding men from justification towards deeper reflection and accountability. It’s not about quick fixes; it’s about creating a consistent, respectful space that nurtures genuine growth and change.

Ultimately, ethical MI practice isn’t just about having great skills—it’s about making a committed choice. A commitment to trauma-informed, culturally grounded ways of working. A commitment to uphold dignity. And a commitment to change that heals not just individuals, but entire whānau and communities.

Let’s keep this conversation going. Let’s commit to ethical, mana-enhancing MI practices together. Because when done right, MI doesn’t just change behaviours—it changes lives. Are you ready to deepen your ethical practice and make a difference? Let’s start this journey together.

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